Invitation to Three Sundays in March
Shame calibrates all the ways, great and small,
that we feel we cannot measure up.
Shame is nothing to be shameful about. Shame is the very physical, heart rending, painful measure of the way we hide from life and from others because we do not feel ourselves equal to what we meet.
In other words, all human beings experience it at every stage of their passage through life, most especially in moments where we need courage and presence and most emphatically as we approach our last breath.
Shame calibrates all the ways, great and small that we don’t measure up: and therefore shame secretly affects even the outwardly shameless and is the core human driver of all human maturation. Shame outlines exactly the ways we feel inadequate and unequal to life and exactly the nature and place of our hiding. Shame provides us, generously and on a daily basis, with the invitation to understand all the ways we do not wish or do not deserve to be seen, to be touched or to be invited to join the extraordinary dance of the world: shame tells us instantly all the ways we desire to meet but dare not meet, all the ways we are desperate to play but do not play, and all the ways we desire to sing but do not sing. Shame tells us all the ways we long for real change but do not feel worthy of the transformation, all the ways we deeply desire to be enlivened or to feel pleasure in the extraordinary miracle nature of creation. Shame instructs us in all the ways we feel we do not deserve to be here.
Shame tells us all the ways we long for real change but do not feel worthy.
Evolutionary pressures and the paramount survival of the tribe mean that our very personal sense of not being adequate to what is demanded of us, is often used against us by the community, by our colleagues, and by our societies to keep us in line, to make us feel bad about ourselves; to make us feel physically as if we could ‘die of shame’ something that has a powerful, evolutionary, dynamic of communal survival behind it, and something that it takes tremendous self knowledge to withstand, to be able to examine and find out where we are actually guilty and need to reform and where we have simply become a scapegoat.
Join David Whyte, live or recorded for Three Sundays in March exploring a theme that we often feel either overwhelms us or absolutely doesn’t apply to us in our brash and unwarranted confidence. All of us work with feelings of shame, great or small; this is an opportunity to see it as a friend to our maturation and self understanding, rather than an enemy to be kept at bay.
Three Sundays Testimonials
These beautiful sessions have buoyed me so through the months - now nearly years ... Your words have spoken to me for many years (The House of Belonging is still my favorite, all the pages well worn and the binding frayed). Your choices of theme and poems always seemed divinely timed to what I needed to hear, or to ponder. My creativity has soared, and I have been inspired to let go of old wants and dreams that no longer fit, to be less "hard on myself for wanting what I want," and to really accept that I deserve to have the life I want.
Tremendous possibilities now in focus, realizing the wisdom behind thinking and living with the theme that no matter what, “ everything is still possible.” Can’t thank you enough. Every session gets better and better.
Since I’ve followed your Sundays series beginning in January this year, I’ve gained perspective on why I’m still here (on the planet.) Because of illness and separation from family, I could not see beyond my own misery. Writing didn’t come easily UNTIL I stopped. Thank you for taking us deep into the inner journey. A new door has opened, actually it’s an old, old garden gate and my job was to untangle the overgrowth that was hiding it. Blessings!
"Each time, I have been very moved by what you say and how you've said it. Thank you for being a voice of inspiration, kindness, acceptance, and honesty through this strangely beautiful and transformative time."
- Participant, Three Sundays Series
Thank you for these Sundays that you have been doing throughout the pandemic. They have held my heart and body and mind in such a gentle and honest embrace.
This is opening up some exciting possibilities!
RE-IMAGINING SHAME begins Sunday, March 3rd at 10:00am Pacific Time
How the Series Works
RE-IMAGINING SHAME is centered around three 75-minute livestream sessions delivered via Zoom webconferencing software.
3 Livestream Sessions
Each session will include an hour long talk followed by a 15-minute Q&A.
You will receive preparatory materials offering food for thought for creating an environment to engage with the series, as well as a detailed resource guide following each session.
Each session will include time for David to respond to questions and themes from listeners, which can be submitted live in the Zoom Q&A box.